Sunday, February 6, 2011

Out Spotlight

Today's Out Spotlight was an anti-apartheid, gay rights and AIDS activist in South Africa
As the founder of South Africa's black gay movement, which he linked with the anti-apartheid fight of the time. His prominent profile in the campaign for freedom for the black citizens and his association with anti-apartheid's leaders were instrumental in gaining recognition for gay rights in his country. As an AIDS educator and organizer of South Africa's pride celebrations, he worked to unite black and white gay communities in a common cause across the country. Today's Out Spotlight is Tseko Simon Nkoli.

Tseko Simon Nkoli was born in Soweto (outside of Johannesburg) on November 26, 1957. At that time South Africa was under apartheid law which which control and imposed severe limitations on his family's and other black South African's lives. He told the story, that at age nine, he locked his parents in a wardrobe/cabinet so they could escape detection from police enforcing the pass laws, which restricted where blacks could live. The experience left a powerful impression that he used later on as a metaphor for living a closeted life.

Nkoli spent much of his childhood with his grandparents, low-income tenant farmers on a white-owned estate. He craved education and, against the resistance of the landowner and his grandfather who needed his labor, snuck away whenever he could to attend the rural schools. Eventually he rejoined his mother and stepfather in the Sebokeng township to continue his education.

As a teenager he recognized he had feelings for other men. Identifying as a gay man was confusing because the seSotho word for homosexual is sitabane, which implies hermaphrodite. At 18 he came out to his mother, who took him to a priest and a series of local healers or sangomas who attempted, unsuccessfully, to argue him out of it. At 19 he met his first lover, a white bus driver named Andre, through a pen pal magazine.

Both mothers of both opposed the relationship, Nkoli's because it was a same sex relationship and Andre's because it was biracial. Simon's mother arranged for him to see a psychologist, who turned out to be gay and assured him that his orientation was perfectly natural. Matters came to a head when the lovers made a suicide pact if they couldn't be together. Nkoli's mother learned of it and intervened. They were able to live together once they became college students in Johannesburg. Even then, however, to conform to enforced segregation, he had to pose as Andre's domestic worker.

Nkoli's anti-apartheid activism began when he was arrested four times in the student rebellions of 1976. In 1979 he joined the Congress of South African Students (COSAS) and became secretary for the Transvaal region. When his homosexuality became known, it was debated among his fellows within the organization whether he should be allowed to remain his post in the organization. They voted yes.

After his relationship with Andre ended, he found few resources for gay people of color. Most gay venues, excepting a few cruising areas, were in districts reserved for whites. In 1983 his allegiances in racial and sexual identity politics intersected: he came out in an interview in the City Press, a black newspaper an joined the virtually all-white Gay Association of South Africa (GASA), which maintained an apolitical distance from the apartheid struggle. Getting little support within GASA for advocating that they relocate their social activities away from whites-only facilities, in May of 1984 he started The Saturday Group, South Africa's first gay black organization. It was short-lived, however, because Nkoli's political life soon took a dramatic turn.

In the 80s his student activism resulted in his joining the African National Congress and the United Democratic Front. In 1984 he helped establish the Vaal Civic Association to undertake tenant organizing in the Delmas township. He and 21 others from the UDF were arrested after a march protesting government-imposed rent hikes and charged with "subversion, conspiracy, and treason," crimes subject to the death penalty.

The "Delmas Trial" lasted four years. While in the Pretoria Central Prison, Nkoli came out to his comrades during discussions of prison sex. This action and the debates it inspired prompted UDF leaders such as co-defendants Popo Molefe and Patrick Lekota to recognize homophobia as a form of oppression.

During the trial, proof of his attendance at a GASA meeting was a crucial point in countering the prosecution, which had tried to place him at the scene of a murder. This defense was also a public coming out and brought the Delmas Trial to the attention of the international gay rights groups. He received letters of support, especially from European activists, were an important demonstration of solidarity. Ironically, GASA had withheld its support during the trial. Acquitted in 1988 and he and the rest of the "Vaal 22" were freed. Now seeing an even greater need, upon his release helped found the Gay and Lesbian Organisation of Witwatersrand (GLOW), the first large black-based GLBTQ organization in South Africa. Beginning in 1990, GLOW organized the country's first three pride marches and became the model for several other gay groups in the black townships.

However, during his imprisonment, he learned that he was HIV positive.

Nkoli continued his participation in the ANC, he met with Nelson Mandela in 1994. His visibility in the anti-apartheid movement is credited in winning the ANC's support for gay rights and that that translated into major milestones once the ANC gained power. In 1996 South Africa became the first nation to include "sexual orientation" in its constitution's anti-discrimination clause. From that came striking down sodomy laws and the recognition of gay relationships.

In 1990 he became one of the first South African activists to publicly acknowledge his HIV-positive status. He co-founded the Township AIDS Project (TAP) and the Gay Men's Health Forum, working to bring AIDS education and counseling to disadvantaged populations. He was also a founding member of both the Positive African Men's Project and the National Coalition for Gay and Lesbian Equality (now the Lesbian and Gay Equality Project), as well as a board member of the International Lesbian and Gay Association.

Playful and irreverent,he inspired the devotion of South African progressives from all backgrounds and drew an international following. A 1989 speaking tour of Europe, Canada, and the United States raised $35,000 for TAP.

After becoming one of the first publicly HIV-positive African gay men, he initiated the Positive African Men group based in central Johannesburg. He had been infected with HIV for around 12 years, and had been seriously ill, on and off, for the last four. He died of AIDS in a Johannesburg hospital on November 30, 1998.

A memorial at St. Mary's Anglican Cathedral was followed by a funeral in Sebokeng attended by many of the glbtq and anti-apartheid movements' leaders. The September 1999 Pride march was dedicated to him and included a stop at the newly named "Simon Nkoli Corner" at the intersection of Pretoria and Twist Streets in Johannesburg.

There is a Simon Nkoli Street in Amsterdam and a Simon Nkoli Day in San Francisco. He opened the first Gay Games in New York and was made a freeman of that city by mayor David Dinkins. In 1996 Nkoli was given the Stonewall Award in the Royal Albert Hall in London.

Canadian filmmaker John Greyson made a short film about Nkoli titled A Moffie Called Simon in 1987. He was the subject of Robert Colman's 2003 play, "Your Loving Simon" and Beverley Ditsie's 2002 film "Simon & I". John Greyson's 2009 film Fig Trees, a hybrid documentary/opera also includes reference to Nkoli's activism

His papers are at the Gay and Lesbian Archives of South Africa include his letters from prison, which became the basis for "Your Loving Simon." and Simon & I provides a loving portrait of his final years.

Simon Nkoli made a difference not to just the GLBTQ community in South Africa, but for all Southe Africans, and for GLBTQ communities around the world.

36 comments:

  1. houseparty/danceparty said...
    Gee, do you think this is an embellishment? Don't believe Mr. Convenient Tweeter used the term "googly eyes"? Then again, the made up imagery fulfills your fantasy that Jake humps every man in sight. If Jake isn't being depicted as a famewhore, he has to be just a run-of-the mill whore. I'm glad you speak so highly of the man.

    There was more than one tweet of Jake being there. That younger generation seem to be really plugged into the whole social networking thing. There's also video of Jake, Carey & Marcus at this houseparty. And lots of tweets out dancing after the houseparty. Sounds like he was having a great night. Doesn't sound like the thing a man with three spawns and a husband would be doing though.




    Gotta agree with that one.

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  2. I need a raise! It's very difficult to care for three imaginary brats!

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  3. imagine all the people...February 6, 2011 at 1:41 PM

    Here's an imaginary check in the imaginary amount of one MILLION dollars. Hope it helps.

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  4. Babysitters, nannies and relatives are good options for those with children who need a night out and a chance to sneak away to meet their spouse for some alone time later.

    I am always blown away by the fortitude and resilience shown by those in the out spotlights.

    Destiny, I no longer have a device that tapes, but I did see a huge post with Bomer's pics from the event on ONTD. Check them out.

    I'll be glued to the Steeler game later today. Fingers crossed.

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  5. One night of going out and having a good time is squat.

    You know, I bet I could sit down with a calendar, IHJ up and my laptop, and between M&M, Special & myself, we could devise a series of dates for the entire year of 2010 and 2011 thus far, and come up with the days/nights and "single" weekends that are thus unaccounted/pictured in Jake's papped life.

    And you know what it's going to prove? That nights like last night are few and far between.

    How many fathers do people know who sit at home 24/7 with the kids? Round the clock, from sun up to sun down? From 00:01 to 23:59? Monday through Friday? Saturday and Sunday? 7 days a week? 52 weeks out of the year? 365 days? Non-stop?

    No eating out with friends. No fishing. No racquetball. No tennis. No golf. No ballgames. No overtime at the office. No movies. No charity work. No working out. Absolutely no exercise allowed.

    Nope, must stay inside with the children at all times. All the parents I've ever known, their skin doesn't even see the light of day. They stay inside with the kids all day and all night long. Yup, afraid that's the way it is, isn't it?

    Until the kids graduate, isn't that the way it works? Then Mom & Dad, or Dad & Papa cut it loose, partying it up to make up for 18 years of seclusion. Whew! Boy, parenthood is just an impossible gig, isn't it?

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  6. I'm sorry, folks. One night at a concert with a friend (or potential beard, whatever Carey is or going to be) is never, never going to undo Leadville. Going to undo the Nashville/Wilmington weekend trip. Going to undo the Lakers game. Going to undo Tortuga. Going to undo a marriage. Going to undo the treehouse. Going to undo Baby Tile 1. Baby Tile 2. And Baby Tile 3.

    Sorry, sorry, sorry. Jake, you can travel back & forth to Nashville the rest of your life. You can chat up all the single, blond women of Hollywood. You can talk up the niece all you want. You can dance on the tables of Russia, Nashville and Montreal allllllll you want.

    G'head, g'head, g'head! It's your energy level and your life. *shakes head** So, so much energy wasted.

    But I know, buddy. I know.

    I.

    Know.

    And nothing you do anymore is going to rattle me. Or surprise me. Or change my mind.

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  7. Whew, now that that's out of the way, time for the Puppy Bowl!! More important stuff! lol

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  8. Big Sur, San Francisco, the Arctic Circle, the Caribbean, England, Spain, et al. The boys sure do get around, don't they PG? I wonder if sometimes they take the ocean view and sometimes, the mountain view? There's the skylight to the heavens and the feeling of sleeping under the stars. Oh, and don't forget the hot tubs. Got to have those hot tubs. Right Austin?

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  9. spinning and spinningFebruary 6, 2011 at 3:39 PM

    ever get dizzy?

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  11. If Jake was in Nashville then Austin was also. Of course the mystery weekends for Austin are no longer a mystery. Let's hope Hilary has figured it out by now. I am sure Sophia(MY Lady) finally filled her in.

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  12. I bet Hilary has known all along, Tom. Wouldn't surprise me at all. But unlike uber-opportunistic Soap, Hilary just played mysterious and non-committal.

    Oh boy, this Puppy Bowl is the best. CB is my absolutely favorite!!! My new neighbor up above has a new little puppy who looks just like CB! He is THE cutest little thing ever. I can't wait for spring when I can see him properly.

    The Border puppy is also a cutie. And the Chihuahua cheerleaders are a hoot. LOL!!

    Destiny, I think they're having the kitten halftime show just for you and your girlfriend!!! They are something else!

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  13. Austin's making guacamole?

    I am there 1/2 hour ago!!

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  14. Yeah Jake and Austin are watching the Super Bowl together. Nashville what a great rendevous city. I have been there it is nice. I can see the guys retiring their family to Ashville, NC. What a great place to live. The Smoky Mts. sure are pretty.

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  15. Jake is a big fan of Mumford & Sons so can see him going catching another show.

    Mumford & Sons Nashville

    Here's the video of the show. Where's Jake? To the right of Carey Mulligan in the hat. To Carey's left Marcus Mumford. Carey looks interested in capturing they show on her phone. And the guy in the corner looks like he's more interested in watching Jake.

    Jake flew into NYC on American and probably to Nashville on it too. He and Austin are racking up those miles, upgrades? free tickets? or to get in at the Ambassadors club at the airport.

    But again it is all about misdirection. Look here. And while everyone is looking, what is really happening is going on, out of sight.

    Another thing about TN beside the obvious (nice and close to the Hubs) is that is going back Nashville might be a little "oh snap" to Miss Swift and Swift machine.

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  16. I'll say he's racking up the frequent flier miles.

    Niiiiice and close to Wilmy. I mean, when else have we ever seen Jake going to Nashville???

    Nashville over NYC? Nashville over L.A.? Nashville over northern CA? In the winter?

    Think about it. Think good and hard.
    Because that's the big, glaring obvious.

    Jake. In Nashville. In February.

    You couldn't be more obvious, actually, Jake.

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  17. Let it be known that I am the 2nd best guacamole maker in the world. I am making some today for the #superbowl
    about 4 hours ago via Twitter for BlackBerry®

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  19. I forgot about the puppy bowl! And yeah, I have tuned in a few times for the kitten bowl. It was a gorgeous day here, in the 40s, so had to get out for a nice long walk.

    M, thanks again for the effort regarding the Beach Bowl. Someone has come forward, and I should soon have a tape. Haven't had a chance to check out the photos on ONTD.

    Guacamole is one of my favorite things in the world, and I think I'm a pretty maker myself. We have a tradition of having a junk food "dinner" for the Superbowl--guacamole, onion dip, loads of chips, tequila, and if that doesn't fill us up, cheese crisps.

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  20. And true to form - Christina Agui-scare-a absolutely butchered the Star Spangled Banner.

    It was beyond recognizable. I don't know what in the heck that thing was that she sang but it was not the national anthem.

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  22. Well if Ms. Aguilera got the words right to the National Anthem that would be a start.

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  23. ^ Just another excuse to attack another female

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  24. Jack, which is it, you don't watch the Superbowl or you don't know the words to the National Anthem? Because it's all over the place how she messed up the words.

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  25. She did? I didn't even notice that. Good grief.

    I was too busy being tormented by her Flint Hills method of "singing".

    And the crazy part is she has an incredibly powerful voice! Why can't she just sing a song.

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  26. Austin's been a busy, twittering boy!

    Mike Tomlinson is easily the coolest, toughest, sexiest man alive.
    50 minutes ago

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  27. Then he tweeted:

    Yeah I meant Mike Tomlin, the dude from House.
    38 minutes ago



    He's the coach of my sister in law's favorite team. Unfortunately they lost. Great Super Bowl game, though!

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  28. More of Austin's tweets

    # Is there even a Bay in Green Bay? Is it green? 5 minutes ago via Twitter for BlackBerry®


    # The pants that Usher was wearing looked like he dropped a big dump in them as he was being lowered from the ceiling. #scaredofheights about 1 hour ago via Twitter for BlackBerry®

    # I am going to try to start growing digital hair. When I grow up I wanna be like Will.I.Am. about 1 hour ago via Twitter for BlackBerry®


    One question do you think Austin was using that Terrible Towel that woman gave Jake at the game that he sorry Sasquatch used to wipe his mouth off after the Primante brothers sandwich, cheering for the Steelers?

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  29. On Tonight's Glee:

    Sue Sylvester: Britney congratulations you get to do the stunt. (being fired out of a cannon)

    Britney: I don't want to die yet. Not until One Tree Hill gets canceled.

    FWIW: OTH is up against Glee (at their regular time) on Tuesday nights.

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  30. Disappointing game. A good one to watch, but of course the Steelers lost. As they should. The packers played better. I thought most of the commercials were boring. There were a few good ones, but considering how much they cost, not the best they could be.

    The Jake/Carey Mulligan link is not even worth discussing. Acquaintances period. But I'm glad to see Jake doing something youthful for a change,something a college kid would do.

    I feel sorry for Christina. I did not like her rendition, correct lyrics or not. It's better to stick to tradition for some songs especially at an event such as this one. But the missed lyrics were nerves most likely and I'm sure she wishes it had not happened that way. I am guessing she is quite embarrassed by it.

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  32. I wonder who Austin thinks makes the best Gucamole in the world?

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  34. Dear Ted:
    I am bored with cabin fever in the great iced-over state of Texas right now and have been rereading the Toothy Tile archives, and I may be in left field with this guess but could T2 be Charlie Sheen?
    —Julie in Texas

    Dear Blown Away:
    Not a terrible guess, J, but Toothy would never air his dirty laundry the way Sheen can't stop doing. T.T. is a much more private and smart guy. Charlie has been a Blind Vice before though and you're not too far off

    Bitch Back

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  35. I caught that on Glee about OTH--hilarious!

    I was rooting for Green Bay, so happy about the outcome, but it was kind of a boring game, as were a lot of the commercials.

    I really like the Eminem one for Chrysler, beautiful to look at, and made sense, unlike say, the Ford commercial using Jay-Z's New York--what does new York have to do with Ford???

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